Wherein lie my Strengths, therein lie my Weaknesses. It is two sides of the same coin: Strengths on one side, Weaknesses on the other. But these facets are not as distinct as they seem.
Strengths, those sturdy pillars that hold us steady, can also be our Achilles’ heels. And Weaknesses, harbor hidden strengths. Which characteristic is projected or perceived at any given time depends on the context, both internal and external.
I reflect on a friendship dismantled by shifting tides. Their world, once familiar, took a turn for the worst. Context A gave way to context B, and I, was perhaps blind to the impact of the change and continued engaging our friendship like old ways.
In my rigidity, I became an unwitting offender. I, once a trusted confidant, in their eyes, transformed into an apathetic and an indifferent friend. We were neither wholly wrong nor entirely right, our context had merely changed.
What if, instead, I had adjusted to the change? Responsive, attuned to their evolving reality. What if they, too, had appreciated the goodness of my intentions?
What happens in such an impasse?
Acceptance may bring about peace. Acknowledge their hurt, their perception of my missteps. And Forgiveness, to release resentment and make room for grace. The friendship may endure and evolve in unexpected ways.
Yet sometimes, Space may be what’s needed. Not a void, but a sacred pause. We tend to view distance negatively, as if it tarnishes memory. But no! It honors what was—the laughter, the shared secrets, the quiet confidences.
When someone used to be important to you, the best gift you can give them is to let them have the safe space they need. Especially if you realize that in their current situation, you will not be able to contribute as much as they require. Instead of letting the differences become a harmful weapon between you both, allow them (and yourself) the room to breathe.
So let it be – allow acceptance, forgiveness, and space. For within these steps lies healing and the art of honoring what once was.